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Thursday, January 19, 2017

2017 and it's a women's year

Happy belated New Year!
Pigeon Dynamite had a wonderful year last year;
we had public sales TWICE with F.A.D. weekend, photographed by Tiffany Chen and featured in Urban Watch, and launched the official website.
Through my jewelry business, I've met so many talented, strong women who have visions that inspired me so much.
To me, last year was the year of empowering women.
Many were entrepreneurs and they share their voices and ideas and always encourage each other to make best out of the situations.
The words like "woman" or "feminine" or "girly" used to be one of those words that I felt somehow uncomfortable to be categorized in or labeled as.

Growing up, pink was the color that I hated the most.
I refused to wear anything in pink, or had lace around the skirt or sleeves.
Having two older sisters who were not particularly "girly" (but rather "scary" or "terrifying" to me since they are much older,) I may have got the idea of the girls who wore those pink clothes as quite alien-like type of girls I didn't understand.
As for my mom, I don't recall making any trouble for her to dress me. I think actually she liked the fact that I chose such funky clothes all the time. But I also remember the time I wore this very chic black velvet dress with white lace around my socks for my piano recital, she looked at me, telling me how cute I look. I was probably around four or five, with the funniest mushroom haircut that made me look like a LEGO. I realized something about those "girly" stuff I had to wear made my mom really happy even though I thought, and I still think, I looked funny.
From there on though, even as a child, I sort of figure out that being a girl and making myself more of a "girly" girl was something that you do to please other people. At least, to me, it was.
And I hated that. I hated the fact that I had to act certain way, or wear something that I don't want to, just so that other people will smile at me.
Every time my family event happened where all my far away cousins and their parents gathered, people told me to "smile" because I wasn't acting"girl-like-manner."
I felt so ridiculous that I had to be a certain way only because I am a girl so that I have to make people like me by pretending to be someone that I am not. 
Being a difficult teenager is annoying enough, I refused to show up all these family events early on.
But there was the time I remember so clearly, when I found this L'Oreal dial mascara on my sister's makeup desk, I was so curious about these dials around the container and immediately wanted to try it on. I was eleven or twelve and looked at myself in the mirror with the horrible first attempt on putting mascara that made me look more like Robert Smith (from the Cure), but I remember that made me feel like a "girl" almost for the first time.
That was a confirmation that I was a girl who like to put a makeup on, which is "girly."
I still refused to wear pink, but I remember when Anna Sui released the pink mascara, I was so crazy about that pigment. It was this vivid, bubble gum like hot pink color.
Just on my lashes, it was perfect amount of pink I could handle at that time. (And later on, I'd dye my hair pink.)
It took some time, but I learned the way to make people like me. The easiest way I found was to be honest with myself first.
Eventually I was comfortable with myself to act the way how I wanted to act, say what I thought it was appropriate to say, and stopped worrying about what everyone would say or think about me.
Girls are constantly being judged, maybe just as much as we judge each other, but once you let that go, it's really easy to find peace. I know this because I went through six years of private female school and saw absolutely the worst and the best we could do to each other.
My idea of girls who wear pink now changed and it's the color now that I see as celebration of being a girl and a woman just as I see blue or gray or any colors.
We don't have to be the way how others expect to be.
We don't need to pull each other down so that you can feel better about yourself, but pull each other up so that we can see higher.
When we back each other by action and by words, it is the best way to support each other.
I make jewelry to support those women who have a strong style, who are motivated, and are not afraid to voice their opinion.
I truly hope my jewelry can encourage women and brighten their every day.

Thanks for reading,

初めてのマスカラに慣れない私をTHEキュア のロバートスミスみたいなパンダ目に変えた



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